Aside from women who immediately slip cell phones on restaurant tables, men complain about women with chips on their shoulders. A lot of us have been burned, and we do not want to get fooled again, but when we interrogate a guy about his past, it is a total turn-off. Take the pressure off. Keep your eyes and ears open, and get to know him over time. You do not need to grill him before he has a chance to show you who he is. Give the situation a little room to breathe.

Does this mean that the guy isn't out for himself? Isn't a total creep? A player? Of course not. He may very well be, but keep your eyes and ears open. Do his actions match his words, for example? Is he checking out every woman who walks through the door? No need to interrogate. Watch. Let what he does tell you the truth before you decide anything. People reveal themselves pretty quickly if you pay attention.

Ask yourself how you would like it if you dated a man, and he went on about how all women do this, and that's the way you women are, and why did you break up with your last boyfriend? Nobody likes to be treated like a user or foreign species. We're all human, so approach a new man as you would a potential new friend. Do not make him pay for somebody else's behavior. That only creates distance where there did not need to be any.

The last thing you want to do is turn off a loving, loyal, passionate, successful, fun guy because you've been burned before. I mean, who hasn't been? Be open, but stay alert. That is the balance that lets you learn who he is without pushing him away. If he is worth your time, he will show it. If he is not, you will know soon enough.